I got some excellent advice from a good friend. We were discussing the fact that I get upset around Christmas time with all the excess that our family spends in time and money on "stuff" around the holidays. I know, I know it is supposed to be about giving but it should be about the giving to others and not spoiling ourselves or our children. My loving wife ( and I am not being facetious) told me that I just like to complain. I took her comment for granted but I was discussing how ticked off I was with the holidays with a good friend and his short and immediate comment was " So! Just put your foot down...but do it out of love."
How true it is that God gives us good advice from the people he puts in our lives. I was not willing to listen to my wife but when someone else close to me says what should be obvious to me THEN I listen. We all could have a good dose of not complaining and grumbling. If it bothers me I should patiently discuss what is bothering me with my wife and do it out of love for her and not my perceived righteousness.
How good is it to have a wife dedicated to beautiful decorations around the holidays and the fact that she does it without complaint even in the face of her own struggles. I should thank God for her and tell her how much I appreciate her efforts. But I should also have the guts to discuss with her when the effort she is making is getting out of control. At some point men have to lead but we must do so out of love.
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I think we did pretty good this Christmas....considering it was a very weird and different Christmas for us! I know our Christmas' seems to change as time passes by but at least we can hold to one true standard....I spend money...you worry about money....holiday's are meant to draw peolple closer not away from each other. I want us to work on that! I want to look forward to our future and future holidays. We have so much to enjoy together on this life journey.
Your wife,
Sharon
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